Say NO to suicide. You’re better and stronger than that. You deserve to live, and have a better life. You can achieve the things you want to.
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Suicidal thoughts? Suicidal ideation? These are temporary, and suicide is not a good solution – ever.
It’s really not worth it, and people do care about whether you believe it or not. I understand that you may truly BELIEVE that nobody will care, or that they’re “better off without you”, that you’re “a burden” etc. – but frankly, you’re not thinking clearly right now if you’re in this state. Your family, friends and others will be hurt and traumatized over your rash decision. I know, because I’ve experienced it with the death of my uncle who committed suicide years ago; my whole family grieved over it for years, and still remembers him to this day. We wish we could seen more warning signs and done more to help him. The same has happened with several friends, whether they were close or not; it’s not something one just forgets.
You may feel that you’re relieving your suffering, but life could be much worse and there are people who are likely going through even worse than you, have come out of it and even prospered in life. Now, I’m not trying to devalue what you’re going through — your struggles and concerns are very real and important too; but my point is that you can do it as well.
Talk to someone, or multiple people
It may be difficult or even embarrassing, but you need to talk to someone about the things that are upsetting you so much. Getting your story and feelings out there alone can be somewhat relieving, and even more so if you share with someone who understands you — maybe that could be someone else with a mental illness (if that’s the case), for example — they often seem for sympathetic, in my experience.
Think about the things you would be leaving behind, some of which are unknown to you and could be wonderful — you don’t know what your life has in store for you in the future, especially if you just throw your life away.
Unless you find a complete jackass or someone who is incredibly immature and thinks you just want attention, most people that at least know you should be willing to listen to you and want to help. If you don’t like the reaction of one person, then try someone else. Don’t worry about what they think; we’re talking about YOUR LIFE.
Besides, if you are really considering suicide, then you don’t have anything to lose by telling someone how you feel. Don’t just give up without giving yourself and people a chance to help you. You’re worth more than you think.
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But I am getting treatment that helps me cope enough to deal with my problems. I have to be strong, and put a lot of energy into being positive at times.
Some other suggestions
- Try to think of positive things.
Surely – even though you are very negative to be considering suicide – and thinking positively is difficult at this point in time, there ARE positive things about your life, whether you want to admit it or not. Do you have a place to live? Do you have food to eat? Do you have clothes? Are you physically capable of doing a multitude of things? Do you have any special skills or talents? Do you have a family? A lot of people have few if any of these things; maybe you don’t have them all, but I’m willing to bet you at least have a few – and at the very least, you can think of some positive things about yourself on your own. Think about something you’ve done in life that made you proud of yourself, or that made someone else proud of you.
- Write down a list of things that are bothering you, and then work on them step by step.
Write down an entire list of things are bothering you in life, one by one. Leave some space between each, then go back and think about each one. Why is it bothering you? Can you do anything to change it? If you can change it, then write down what steps you can take to change it over time. If you really can’t change it, then the solution is simple – stop worrying about it and accept it as part of life. We can’t have control over everything, and nobody likes everything about life unless they are lying. But we can live with them, by focusing on the positive things about ourselves, and the things we can change.
- Express yourself and feelings through creativity.
Yep, that’s right. Get out some scrap paper and start doodling. Or if you’re into art, you can draw and paint something – anything – to express your feelings, and let them out. Think of it as a release of tension – feel some of that suppressed pain inside you go out through your fingertips. It doesn’t matter what the result looks like, you can make it abstract or non-sense. The point is just to let out some of your energy, and distract your mind.
- Watch something funny on YouTube, TV or any other choice of entertainment
Sometimes I find that watching comedy, even if it’s stupid and whether it actually makes me laugh or not is distracting enough to help lighten my mood until I naturally come out of my depression. I personally like to watch prank videos, people doing stupid things in public, or even just silly cartoons to pass some time while I calm down.
- Listen to relaxing music
I don’t suggest listening to dark, aggressive music with a fast beat even if you feel that it relates to you. This is because it tends to keep you in that mood. Instead, I suggest listening to something relaxing and happier, but that’s still in a style you can appreciate and don’t dislike too much that you just want to turn it off.
- Consider changing your environment and surroundings
If you have enough energy, maybe you can do some cleaning or just change your house or room around a bit to get a fresh feeling. Move your furniture and change the layout of entire rooms that you are in most frequently. Move paintings and other decorations on the wall, or put up new ones that give off a positive vibe. Maybe even paint your room to a lighter color, if that’s an option.
If you’re not in the mood to do that, then consider visiting a family member or friend for a day. You can tell them you’re not feeling too great (if you want, you don’t have to) and just want to hang out for a while. If that’s not an option, consider going to a park or other public location to look around at different things than the usual. You could look around a museum, or just stare at the clouds for a while and pick out things you see. You could go to a beach and play in the sand even. Pretty much anything you can think of to get out of your ordinary routine. It doesn’t matter if some of the things seem childish, it will help you feel slightly better to get out of the norm.
- Consider exercising
Again, if you have the energy — I know while depressed that this often isn’t the case. But if you do have enough energy, you should try to motivate yourself to exercise a little, even if it’s just a 10-20 minute walk or bicycle ride. Driving or getting a ride to a nice park and walking around there would be a great idea. Maybe you can find a place where there are birds you could feed too! I prefer to walk around in places that are naturally beautiful and/or have some wildlife, to make it feel less like work and have it be more enjoyable – but that’s just me.
- Remember that you’re not alone.
Many people feel the same way you do, including myself at times. Maybe some day, if you haven’t already, you will meet someone else who has experienced very similar if not the same feelings as you. I know I have. Don’t feel like you’re alone, because you’re not. There are forums for people who are suffering as well, you can likely find some type of community online and post your feelings anonymously, or you can join a support group in person if you’re comfortable with that.
- Know that things can and will change
Whether you’re suffering from mental illness as I am, or you’re going through a very difficult breakup, financial issues, coping with the death of a loved one, or anything else, things WILL change. You likely have many years ahead of you, and it’s very UNLIKELY that your situation will be exactly the same unless you do nothing about it.
- Make an effort to change and better your life!
The hard truth is that only you can change your life and make it better. But you can do it. No medications, therapy, or anything else for that matter will magically take away all of your pain – and they typically won’t resolve the issues that are causing you to consider suicide either. You need to think differently, and you need a different, more positive mindset. Tell yourself “I’m going to do this, I’m going to make my life better!“, and believe it – know it to be true, because you have the power to do that. Change your habits, learning new coping skills, changing your perspective about life and the things that bother you, reminding yourself of positive things, and avoiding things that trigger your depression and suicidal thoughts to the best of your ability.
If you have unresolved issues caused by trauma, I suggest that instead of ignoring that, you find someone to talk to about it such as a therapist, because if you just bottle up your feelings indefinitely then it isn’t going anywhere — you need to accept that things happened in your life and move on, rather than letting them creep out once in a while.
Start making a plan to better your life today, right now. Don’t put it off any longer. You are strong enough to get through this, and when you do, you’ll be able to handle anything else life throws at you even better than before.